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In the light of my last post about ‘having a mind towards family’ as a strengthener of marriage, I found this website interesting and encouraging and well, yes, we need to talk in these terms these days, because marriage and family don’t always go hand in hand anymore.

The Book

It’s a fresh look at a few other issues too. Enjoy.


It occured to me tonight that one of the greatest ways to strengthen a marriage is to desire to have a child.

  • It is both humbling and (relationship) strengthening for a husband to depend on his wife to bear him a child.
  • It is both humbling and (relationship) strengthening for a wife to rely on her husband for the seed and to give her body to nurture their common child.
  • It is both humbling and (relationship) strengthening for a couple to commit to raising a family together.
  • It is both humbling and (relationship) strengthening for a couple to pray together to their Father in expectancy.

Very rarely do you read a thoughful, intelligent, non-reactionary (from either side) Christian comment regarding contraception. In this post, Albert Mohler discusses some of the issues which are ignored by most or clouded over (by illogic) by the rest.

Using contraception, (at least until we’ve had some time to ourselves, or made some money, or finished our education…) is virtually unquestionable among young christian couples today. But Mohler notes, (in reference to the devolopment of contraceptive technology) that 100 years ago “adults who’d intend to have very active sex lives without any respect to the likelihood of children didn’t exist. And it’s now unexceptional.”

Further, The idea that sex would be severed from childbearing is a very modern concept — and a concept made meaningful only by the development of the Pill and its successor birth control technologies. The severing of this relationship represents a quantum change in human life and relationships, not to mention morality.

Methinks this yet another topic where we’ve allowed the events and minds of the world to shape our thinking, rather than asking our Father what he thinks about it.

In a world where just about everything you read is scandal and shame, there are still people with conviction. Read about an actor who treasures his marriage so much, he will *not* kiss another.

Thanks Nicole for the link to this article. My friends will want to read it too. Their long term love is an example we need to hear about.

When I read this to Alan, he reminded me of a sermon we heard a long time ago. The speaker was recounting the story of his father who, as an elderly man, had just buried his wife. His dad commented, “That was just as I’d always hoped; she went first so she didn’t have the burden of burying me.” The talk was given to a group of homosexual men in response to their claim that homosexual love was legitimate. After recounting the story he said “You can have no idea of that type of love.” I’m sure in today’s world this criticism could be applied to most modern ideas of love.

Who couldn’t admire a man who would desire to serve his wife so self-sacrificially?

Anyone else got a true love story to share?

It’s astounding that you continually grow in your understanding of something you’ve known about for years and years. I do like that.

Last post I quoted: How Christians think about and live out our male-female distinctions is one of the foremost evangelistic tools in reaching those who have not understood the gospel.

Christian marriage is yet another tool to speak to the world about Christ and God’s glory. It is closely tied to our understanding of masculinity and femininity yet on a more specific level. Too often it seems that Christians live as if marriage is simply a ‘good’ arrangement that enables us to get our own needs met, in security.

This article (by Albert Mohler) shows that marriage, for Christian people, is much more than just ‘good’ for society and security, but that it is designed to bring glory to God. He doesn’t say much about it being a reflection of the Godhead but that is just something more to ponder later.

From the article: Our chief end is to glorify God — and marriage is a means of His greater glory. As sinners, we are all too concerned with our own pleasures, our own fulfillments, our own priorities, our own conception of marriage as a domestic arrangement. The ultimate purpose of marriage is the greater glory of God — and God is most greatly glorified when His gifts are rightly celebrated and received, and His covenants are rightly honored and pledged.